i wanna live like this with the woman i marry
who wouldn’t want to live lie this?
An old cherokee told his grandson:
"My son, there’s a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peave, love, hope, humility, kindness & truth."
The boy thought about it, and asked:
"Grandfather, which wolf wins."
The old man quietly replied:
"The one you feed."
It’s the foundation of personal Character and Self-Discipline. Like with our muscles or our lung capacity, our capacity to do what is right can be developed over time. Like the process of building a muscle or feeding a specific wolf in order to make it healthier and stronger — Both Character and Self-Discipline describe a process.
Character is derived from the word kharax, which means to chisel — in that each day we make choices that shape us into what we’re going to become. You are both the shaper and the shapee — you and you alone are responsible for your final form; hopefully you’ll surround yourself with people that will encourage you to shape yourself in a proper manner - but you can’t blame what you become on others - the responsibility is yours.
Discipline is derived from the word disculplina, which means to instruct — in that, through your daily choices you teach yourself the form that you’re going to take.
Your every action has a consequence, one being that it’s always easier to make the same action again. Every time you do wrong — the next time it is easier to justify doing wrong and so it takes less mental consideration and effort to do wrong. Similarly, do what is right and just — and the next time, it’ll be easier to do what is right.
How do you want to shape yourself?
A poem by Taylor Mali
Totally like whatever, you know?
In case you hadn’t noticed,
it has somehow become uncool
to sound like you know what you’re talking about?
Or believe strongly in what you are saying?
Invisible question marks and parenthetical (you know)’s
have been attatching themselves to the ends of out sentences?
Even when those sentences are’t, like, questions? You know?
Declarative sentences - so - called
because they used to, like, DECLARE things to be true
as opposed to other things which were, like, not -
have been infected by a totally hip
and tragically cool interrogative tone? You know?
Like, don’t think I’m uncool just because I’ve noticed this;
this is just like the word on the street, you know?
It’s like what I’ve heard?
I have nothing invested it my opinions, okay?
I’m just inviting you to join me in my uncertainty?
What happened to our conviction?
Where are the limbs out on which we once walked?
Have they been, like, chopped down
with the rest of the rain forest?
Or do we have, like, nothing to say?
Has society become so, like, totally…
I mean absolutely… You know?
That we’ve just gotten to the point where it’s just like…
And so actually our disarticulation…ness
is just a clever sort of… thing
to disguise the fact that we’ve become
the most aggressively inarticulate generation
to come along since…
you know, a long, long time ago!
I entreat you, I implore you, I exhort you,
I challenge you: To speak with conviction.
To say what you believe in a matter that bespeaks
the determination with which you believe it.
Because contrary to the wisdom of the bumper sticker,
it is not enough these days to QUESTION AUTHORITY.
You have to speak with it, too.